Saturday, July 23, 2011

Out of the Job, On to the Big Move

I'm a stay at home mom again! I just had my last day of work yesterday. I was a phlebotomist at a local hospital for only a short 8 months. Though i feel i learned so much in such little time working with everyone. So i have to say: Goodbye Barton! You were good to me! I will miss my dysfunctional lab family and everyone else, but am grateful for everything that everyone taught me!


Now on with the packing! We have 6 weeks left, but for the next 5 weeks i will be gathering the items we will be taking with us, and getting rid of everything else. As Ive stated before we are going to Mexico by plane, we will be taking as much as we can carry between 5 suitcases, and for the most part be starting over in Mexico!  

Surprise!

I just recently found out I'm pregnant! And the plan to move to Mexico is still on! So i will be having our next bundle of joy in Mexico, and for this pregnancy I'm bound and determined to have a natural at home birth.


With my first pregnancy with my DD i couldn't feel a thing... I was so hyped up on medication to help me sleep through labor, that my nurse gave me three hours before starting, and an epidural that my nurse said i needed 'because i wasn't strong enough to handle the pain', that i couldn't enjoy the feeling of having succeeded in one of the first steps to becoming a mother. So right after birth, though i love my DD with all my heart, i felt detached. Of course that changed over the next hour i held her in my arms, but i still regretted my whole birthing experience. Which is why this time around I'm want to have it all natural!


We will still not be leaving for Mexico for another 6 weeks, so until then i will be doing some of my OB visits here in the states. Then my next task will be finding una partera (midwife), in Mexico. And though i thought this would be easy, its proving rather difficult. Mis suegros (my in-laws) say that no one uses them anymore, and so there are none. But you bet I'm gonna have to have a look when i get down there! I'm a very stubborn mommy lol


I will be using this of course as a way to help others who may like information regarding having a baby in Mexico, based on my experiences, so stay tuned.


And if anyone that reads this has ANY information on a midwife in Puerto Vallarta, please Please PLEASE let me know! It will be greatly appreciated.

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Illegal Immigration: My Opinion

Illegal immigration is such a touchy subject... I believe it's because there is so many variations. There is so many different circumstances to every one's story. And this post will be based off my own as the spouse to an illegal immigrant.


My Concern & Thoughts:
  • What about the children of illegal immigrants who are illegal themselves? Their brought into when their small, sometimes never knowing their illegal till their much older. They go to school pass all their classes get into (i.e Cal Poly) , but have no hope for financial aid. The place they call home would rather kick them out for staying here illegally, even though they have a family, a spouse and kids. Whats the fate for them? when they try to become legal, even though they are married and have a child, its near impossible... All that money lost in trying to make them legal and yet its denied or doesn't go through and petitions expires. The only hope is if they get arrested while committing a crime and the spouse (whose a us citizen) fights the deportation notice...but if they've never committed a crime except their presence being here, then there's no hope.


  • Most do not continue their education because of financial reasons, and the inability of being able to get a job legally prevents them from paying for school. and i know there are people out there that work illegally, but what about the ones that pay taxes? why cant their illegal children go to school if their paying taxes? An 'anchor baby' or a US spouse doesn't make the difference in some cases. I honestly wish it did. But even though I am married to an illegal, and he has a child with me, it does not prevent his deportation. I have done the paperwork and lost all the money for it and for the lawyer fees (over $3,000), my husbands parents paid taxes and he went to school and got honors, he got accepted into cal poly he had dreams of supporting his family and being an engineer, i offered to work and try to put him through college, Ive spoken to numerous lawyers and the only chance for him to become legal is if her gets a deportation notice. They say the chances of him getting citizenship if i file again are not likely. So I have done my research. I have been through this. These are the facts. My facts.
  • People often get upset when they find out that many illegals will hire a coyote to sneak across the border, and the money that they spend on a coyote is as much as it would be to get paperwork started. But it's not that easy. You cannot compare how easy or difficult it is for Mexicans coming into the US as it is for Italians coming in. Depending on where the person(s) are coming from, can make all the difference. Because there is such a high volume of Mexicans that come into the US, though I'm sure it is lower due to economy and stricter state laws, it slows down the paperwork process for someone to come into the US. So some can weigh out that the likely hood of them getting in with a coyote is higher then if they try the paperwork process...Just food for thought..
Again what i have stated above is of my own opinion. So if you are to comment, i am open to your opinions as well, just please refrain from any profanity.